Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider

Episode 285: Advice from “The Rules” Authors

I sat down with two women the other day. And I can’t decide whether they’ve completely ruined my life or helped me. I decided they were going to help me decide before this podcast was over. Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider are the authors of the classic book, “The Rules”.

I know this book inside and out. Every woman I ever dated back in the 90’s and early 00’s read “The Rules” AND were following them. I felt like I was talking to them on behalf of every single person I’ve ever dated. (And every man who’s ever been frustrated by a woman they’ve dated.)

“The Rules” tell women how to date and WHO to date. But more than that, it teaches you to have self respect. How to bring the center of gravity back to yourself. And stop outsourcing your self-esteem to some other human or some idea of being with that human.

I’ve been married twice. I told Ellen and Sherrie about both of my marriages, but I kept something things private, too. I told them I’m going to give their books to my daughters. I want them to read it.

“But I don’t know if I want my future girlfriend to read it,” I said.

Maybe that’s because I’m a little lost. And I want her (whoever she is) to be a little lost with me.