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  Many people want to end their marriages. I get it. Sometimes people marry for the wrong reasons and sometimes people marry the wrong people. Or even better, sometimes you marry the right person but they married the wrong person. Or even worse, sometimes you married the right person but then you just want to […]

I was scared to death. I thought I was going to cry. Polls say people would rather be dead than speak in public. Seinfeld joked that a guy giving a eulogy would rather be in the coffin. I’ve given 100s of talks but last week I wanted to die before I went on stage. I […]

  I woke up, pictured I had a gun to her head and blew her head off. A close relative. I was upset at something she had done to me. But then I was ashamed at being angry. I don’t really know what she is going through. Shame! Or yesterday, I randomly was jealous of […]

  It is not easy for me to be honest. I grew up thinking I had to lie to people to get them to like me. I needed to somehow be someone I wasn’t in order to burn away invisible scars that I was sure everyone could see. I thought I had to, for instance, […]

G wrote me last night: “Dear James, I find your posts disturbing and troubling, especially considering your influence and reach. You operate at close to genius level; you are one of life’s winners, a product of Cornell and CMU. But most,if not all, your fan’s are mediocre, and shouldn’t be deluded into thinking they can […]

I give up. I can’t tell my kids not to go to college. I have tried all the usual statistics: A) student loan debt you’ll never be able to pay back. B ) for the first time ever, greater than 50% of the unemployed have college degrees. So that whole myth of “you can’t get […]

  The first girl I dated after separating from my wife asked me what my net worth was on our first date. I was honest and I told her. She said, “that’s not enough.” I asked her what her ex was worth but she said, “why do people always ask that.” Her ex was well […]